You know what they say, manners make the man. In an online forum titled “Ask Men,” one person asked which harsh truths fellow lads had to learn to make them better people. From love to work, here’s what they said.
Note: Some quotes in this piece have been lightly edited for grammar.
1: Take Care of Business
One man said the hard truth they’ve learned is that hard work doesn’t reap the rewards; Profitable work does. They use the analogy that they could spend two days filling a hole with gravel using a shovel or two hours doing it with a backhoe. “You are not rewarded by how hard you try to do something. You only get credit for what gets done. “
2: Nobody Cares
A humbling but heartwarming truth one man learned is that “The world does not care about me, and that’s okay.” Another man agreed, “I kinda like it better that way.”
3: Make Yourself at Home
“Ultimately, all you have is yourself,” said one man to his peers. “Be nicer to you.” Someone asked, “But what if I don’t deserve it?” They kindly responded, “You do. You always do.”
4: Stay Golden
From one man to another, the truth that made him a better person is, “Life is rigid and unfair. That doesn’t mean you have to be as well.”
5: Doctor’s Orders
“An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure,” said a man about the harsh life truth they learned. One way to take a step in that direction? “Gentlemen, get your prostates checked often.”
6: Achy Breaky Heart
A man who’s clearly been through some heartbreak said, “Sometimes, you just can’t make someone love you, no matter how hard you try.” A similar harsh love lesson another man learned was that you can deeply love each other, and it’s still not enough to make it work. “That was a painful lesson.”
7: Failure Is Inevitable
The harsh truth one man had to learn is that “It’s possible to do everything right and still fail.”
8: Repetition Is Key
While an adverse event in your life might not be your fault, it’s still your responsibility, one man offered. “Not your fault, but your problem,” another responded. “Repeat that to yourself.”
9: Not So Smooth Sailing
“Quit trying to avoid hard things because that is how you grow as a man,” one advised. “Now, this is solid advice,” someone agreed. “A smooth sea never made a skilled sailor.”
10: Focus on You
Being a little self-absorbed is a good thing sometimes. “Your safety and happiness are your responsibility, nobody else’s,” a helpful man said. “You have to look out for yourself because the world isn’t going to.”
11: Keep Your Friends Close
Looking to become a better person? “Keep your porch clean and follow YOUR dream,” according to one male commenter. They added, “Keep those who actually care close to you.”
12: It’s Always Something
If you’re waiting for life to slow down and ease up, newsflash: you’ll always be waiting. One man isn’t holding their breath. “I’ll probably hit retirement looking forward to settling down and having less responsibility, and then one of my kids will need to move back in.”
13: Improve Yourself
Apologies can mean little when there’s no action behind them. One guy said, “Don’t be sorry, be better.”
14: Come Together
It’s easier said than done, but one harsh truth a man learned is that you can’t do everything on your own. “Humans are inherently social, and at some point, you will need something from someone,” they said.
15: Build Good Habits
“There will always be people better than you, smarter than you, or who have better opportunities than you,” another man said. “One thing you can control, however, is showing up. For 99% of people, consistent good habits will get them a lot further than one or two ‘lucky breaks’ ever could.”
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